In the company of a career partner, as a sincere thought, he may suggest spending more money and enjoying the fruits of labour; perhaps buying a new car.
At the advice of a healthy indulgence, the individual replies with a long form answer.
I’m quite comfortable shaping my vision with my own two bare hands. This body is all that I need in the process of my goal. Deriving pleasure from small wins, the pain of dedication and humility brings me joy. The more pronounced the pain I am inflicted with, the greater reward and fulfillment of these small wins. What greater gift is there than the vehicle God has bestowed onto man?
To build on the mentality of this individual, his dedication to a purpose brings him joy and obsession to the point where it takes the entire space of his thoughts.
This drive and motivation that comes from the power imminent in the individual is the source that draws my attention.
It’s his level of astuteness, being fully present and immersed in one’s enjoyment.
There’s a few examples I have of my own that describes this notion.
Let me begin with a fairly recent example of this concept. I had been out on a family lunch, it was a superlative of summer weather. Having not been adventurous this season and in quite a restrictive environment, this family outing was an opportune refreshment of my sense of delight and public interaction.
Upon stepping into the restaurant, a lingering anxiety of self-consciousness creeped in as I walked through the packed hallway.
By the time I was seated and greeted by the waitress, another pang of anxiety swept over my mind, increasing the conscious attention of my appearance further. That day in particular, my skin flare up was highly noticeable and a borderline inescapable distraction. I could sense the inhibition in her eyes, at the face of an unknown skin condition.
Several moments later, as I was eating a nicely prepared dish of quinoa with salmon and mixed vegetables, a struck of inspiration had hit me. Overly joyed with the dish, I was granted with another joyful surprise of pattern recognition.
In the contemplation of my former negative interpretation with my public interaction was suddenly all swept away with one realization.
In that moment, I realized this pain and tension could fuel my inspiration and motivation towards my creative endeavor. When I realized the value of my pain and tension, I could not help but be filled with joy in knowing that doing this mental exercise enough times it would fuel my creative endeavor enough to the point where I could associate pangs of anxiety and self-consciousness with gratification and fulfillment. Because at that point no matter what my mental or emotional state of being is, it can’t change the fruiting of my goals, it can’t change the materialization of the plan.
The momentum and awestruck moment I felt in the flash of inspiration seemingly out of nowhere was a gift. That dopamine hit that comes from recognizing the mind’s thought patterns is the source of building momentum.
The value I attributed to inspiration; the acquired sense of potential complemented in inverse proportion to my initial pangs of anxiety.
I call this realization process mental recalibration. A process of associating positive beliefs in supplementation to a former negative belief and interpretation. Practicing this exercise enough times, soon enough the mind will associate former irritants with positive inclinations.
There are however a few prerequisites to fostering this ability. The unity and balance between mind and heart; the mental and emotional headspace to be present in the moment; the maintenance of a healthy body and mind, and possibly preconceived positive thoughts to engage the mind, preempting the likelihood of positive insights.
I will introduce another example I have experienced recently, and use quite often. Everyday, usually at night and in various parts of the day, I am met with a wave of disturbance from my skin condition. It’s assertive and prominent at night, this is when I feel an overloaded shock of sensory nerves urging me to vigorously pick, scratch and peel the layers of excess skin production. It’s something that has become immensely desensitized in my nervous system in the last two years.
The dissociation that is derived from skin picking, not unlike the habits of nail biting, hair grooming and other behavioral adaptation people tend to do are consequence of tension. This form of dissociation is the mind’s false sense of relief that comes with the pain and tension my body experiences at night from it’s sensory overloads.
Through the recalibration of mind, I have been able to train progressively to associate this daily pain with joy and gratification.
In the momentary states of mental and emotional deterioration, it can serve as fodder for a meaningful pursuit.
Stress and eustress activate the immune system, it incentivizes the mind, one could even call it a purpose for living, a reason for existence.
Those moments of distress, unease, discomfort and pain can serve as a means to forestall a heightened reward, a greater sense of fulfillment.
If the pain and uneasiness of the moment is severe in its immensity, then even the small wins will be attributed greater joy and gratification.
Each time my body is inflicted with pain, the more gratifying and joyful I am of the small wins on the path of the mission.
If ind that concept profoundly beautiful. To take joy in the small wins; the sensitivity to pain is equal if not even more sensitive to the fulfillment of smaller gratifications.
It fosters the ability to appreciate the small things, the presence of the moment, a source of gratitude for one’s life.
One who appreciates all the various experiences and moments of life will consequently be more present in each moment and have a greater appreciation for their life. Every mental and emotional state is an opportunity to get the most out of the human experience. To view one’s life as something precious and to hold dearly to that gift.
The last example I will use is also a recent encounter. I had finished training for a job opportunity for a couple days and on commencement of the final test, I was unable to complete it successfully. I still thanked the manager for the opportunity, always leaving a positive impression.
Fortunately I was able to learn from that experience and sift out my interests and expectations that will serve as utility for more suitable opportunities. In returning to the station to receive my check. as the manager handed the not, I had butchered my speech in thanking him. I nearly deprecated myself in response to that, but as I was exiting the lot, I clicked onto my mental thought process and gave a quick contemplation.
I identified my mispronunciation merely as a sign of a lack of social exposure. A spark of motivation hit me, a stimulation of dopamine hit me in the identification of the problem. In realizing that, I gave my mind a sense of appreciation for alerting me to the issue.
Identifying the problem is half the solution, and so I expressed gratitude for my mind. Using this sensitive example, one might perceive this to be harsh and excessive, however the ends justify the means. I could use this encounter as fuel, motivation and inspiration for widening my social environment, building off the momentum of that experience.
The way to get the most out of mental recalibration is to detach from all distractions from the one and true purpose. The one and true purpose has to be the only objective and thing you want out of life. By reducing any and all distractions that are pulling you away from the mission, you foster a heightened sensitivity to small things and nuances that contribute to the fulfillment of the goal. Learning to sensitize one’s pain and tensions and supplementing positive associations with former negative interpretations. This is the essence of mental recalibration.
To be detached from anything outside of the overarching plan enough that pleasure and joy is derived from even the smallest things that may bring you to greater heights, even small interactions and encounters. The joy that comes from serving the aspirations of the heart and soul.
Those small but numerous and deep pains or tensions that preempt the greater reward and fulfillment of small wins. Cherish those, that is the fodder and fuel for the one and true purpose. Manifesting with humility and dedication to that will be an individual’s greatest asset and advantage in the grand scheme of things.